What can I do when I just want to give up – like dealing with clutter?

Q: What can I do when I just want to give up – like dealing with clutter?

Please oh please don’t give up! No seriously. Life is too amazing to just give up because your have wonky executive functions.

Half of the battle of living with ADHD is managing your mind around it.

ADHD does not mean anything about your character or your intelligence. But I also know that me saying that to you is not enough.

For now, my best advice is to find social support ASAP. Here on ADDA there are some groups that are free when you are a member.

My summer group will be starting up shortly!

As for the future- instead of focusing on all the stuff you struggle with (like organization) take some time to figure out what your strengths are.

Why is THIS easy for me? What comes naturally to you that might not to others?

Really start to integrate all parts of who you are so you can see the big picture.

I recommend a Radical Guide for Women with ADHD, by Sari Solden and Michelle Frank, to everyone.

As the world begins to open up again I would also recommend talking to a therapist or a coach (or both) if that fits into your budget.

Trust me, you are not alone in your frustration. You are part of a large and welcoming family.

Stay in touch! Maybe I’ll see you in a zoom meeting some time.




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