Q: What are some suggestions or resources for an ADHD mother to better be able to help her ADHD toddler when both of them are having bouts of symptoms at the same time?
I’m so happy to see your awareness around the need to manage your own ADHD in order to be the mom you want to be. I want to acknowledge you for that.
But you’re 100% right. You DO have to put on your oxygen mask.
You don’t mention what supports you have in place for your own ADHD currently. Do you have a therapist? A coach? Other supportive people? Not everybody likes medication, but I’ll admit it was a game changer for me when my son was little.
ADHD is very individual, so as a first step, I’d spend some time thinking about how your brain works:
- In what contexts do you notice your symptoms?
- What do you identify as symptoms? How do YOU experience ADHD?
- Are your symptoms more internal/external?
- How much masking do you do?
- Is your self-care a factor?
You are doing the right thing by reaching out. ADDA has wonderful resources. ADDA members can access webinars and support groups specifically for parents in the member area.
Hope this helps!