Never Too Late To Learn That You Have ADHD

I am 65 years old, and I just found out that I have ADHD. I always knew I had a problem, but I never could figure out what my problem was. I liked to learn, but I had a hard time in school. I just was not a good student. I did not have a very good memory. I was very lucky because most of my life I have been in sales.

I did the best when I did not handle paperwork. I just never seemed to get the hang of getting paperwork done correctly. In later years, when I sold insurance and had to complete applications, that really scared me. I was always missing a signature or just not doing it correctly. The best thing about me was I could talk, explain, and sell. The rest really scared me big time. I do not consider myself lazy, stupid, or crazy. I just could not grasp the use of paperwork. Everything else I enjoyed. Computers are another thing I have problems with. I have hard time remembering everything I need to do. Also, it does not interest me. I like helping people.

Finally, I found out what my problem was at the age of 65. What a relief it was to me. My shrink, Dr. Larry, has been a life saver for me. He has really opened my eyes. Now I know why I lose things, misplace things, etc. I do not make excuses for my ADHD, but I know am learning to live with it. I’m not blaming myself anymore. My family is having hard time accepting my ADHD. They just do not understand what it means to me, and why I am the way I am. I would love to get my story out there and help other people who learn at a late age they have ADHD. Since I found out about my ADHD, I am a new and improved person. I am far from perfect but a hundred percent better, and every day I improve.

    • Grace
    • November 24, 2017
    Reply

    Can i be friends with all of you??! A few days ago I finally got the chance to explain to my dad what was going on. I was a 36 yr old kid in a candy store excited to tell him. I told him I’d email him a few links. I checked my email endlessly waiting for a response, even text him to tell him I’d send them. Ok he’s going to talk to me about it on Thanksgiving. Right before my fiancé and I leave, i ask my dad if he got a chance to look at them. Oh, he says, i rarely check my email. Me- Heartbroken. I had this amazing time and dad says that. Eeekk… thankfully I’m aware now to know how to handle this and understand others lack of reaction. Thank you add/adhd brains!! I’m not alone!

    • Joana
    • November 23, 2017
    Reply

    My name is Joana. I am a 28 y/o US-based registered nurse born and raised in the Philippines, and in my 3rd to last semester of MSN-FNP program, who was recently diagnosed with ADD. Back home, we did not have health insurance and behavioral health is really not one of the priority in healthcare.

    Growing up, I truly felt different from my peers. I was not able to make long lasting friends; I was always in the naughty list during primary school, and had to seat in the back because I was disruptive and obnoxious. I got easily bored doing the same thing over and over again; I was not able to sit still at church; I interrupt people when they talk; I tend to get loud and easily get excited (even at work which is affecting my evaluations); so on and so forth.

    I am now on ADD meds and I finally met my inner peace and “inside voice”. I felt more calm and collected. Without Adderal, I always felt like 24hours a day was not enough for me. Now, I found that I can focus more on simple and/or complicated task; I can prioritize and organize at the same time; i can accomplish more errands and chores in 24hours; and most importantly, listen to people around me and let them finish before I talk. I feel like a new person. ?

    • Gina
    • November 20, 2017
    Reply

    I found out this year at the age of 38 . It took à while to understand adhd , but i feel better about it Now. I Now can be easier on myself when i screw Up when i try hard not to. And People are starting to see my strenghts and that feels good. I have learned tricks to help myself and im ok with being different. I can shine in in my own unique way even if it means with extra help. Thats ok?

    • Lori
    • September 13, 2017
    Reply

    I am 53 years old and I just found out yesterday! I am a bit nervous and scared, but relieved to finally have an answer so I can work on the solution! I am the most organized person out there and have had two small businesses so it was hard for me to understand. Evidently, I learned a lot of coping mechanisms early on in life. My youngest daughter also has it and I refused to believe it for years, and now here I am. I have been having huge problems concentrating at work, tired all the time, some anxiety issues, and have always talked over the top of people. A lot of guilt piled up over things I could not control. Now I can find a solution and look forward to getting better. Weird that I came across this site today.

    • Lorraine
    • August 4, 2017
    Reply

    Diagnosed at 63. My life makes so much more sense now that I know why the way I am. I’m retired, so I’m trying to make a “go” of it with no meds. So far so good. Got a little dicey last month when we moved to a new town after 25 years in the same house. Still sitting, playing around on the computer while surrounded by boxes. I am learning to accept my shortcomings, while trying to maximize my assets! Good luck to all of you “late bloomers!”

  1. Reply

    I was 32 when I got tested. My daughter was having problems and we decided to test her for ADHD. But when I watched a video on ADHD, I saw that I was just like the people in the video. So my daughter and I went for testing at the same time and we both have ADHD.

    Now I understand why I am like that. We started medication, my daughter and I both, and wow, do I feel good! I used to go to bed in the evening at 6:30. I was burned out; now I can stay up until 9:00 during the week and until 10:00 or 11:00 on the weekends. And at work, I am more focused so medication is working really well for me and my daughter. Everyone says there are too many side effects, but for my daughter and I, we only had a few side effects the first week as we got used to the medication, but they are really nothing serious.

    Louis

    • Deni
    • May 13, 2016
    Reply

    Diagnosed at 52…it’s been a bitter sweet revelation providing comfort knowing others are like me and frustration that I can’t change to be the person people want me to be…

    • Desiree Espinoza
    • October 23, 2015
    Reply

    I’m very relieved and impressed with your post. I found out roughly at 34. I’m 39 now and just started to make intentional steps towards creating coping mechanisms because I’ve avoided addressing the truth about my brain’s wiring. It was lonely a couple years ago when I didn’t really understand how this wiring is considered falty in comparison with life’s norms. I want to push for awareness as well and am relieved that my paperwork deficits have support.

    • Barb
    • October 22, 2015
    Reply

    Diagnosed at 63. Things are better with medication and therapy but I wish I didn’t have to work so hard now to learn new skills and routines. It is exhausting!

    • Marius
    • October 17, 2015
    Reply

    I am 60 and was diagnosed at 59. Have sons with ADHD. Had been treated for other stuff. At last my life story is making sense. My wife took some time to accept it. Have been reading up a lot. Use medication. Find Totally ADD fun. Am using cognitive behavioural therapy. Use quite a few apps to help me, especially Evernote and Todoist. Life is much better than a few years ago.

    • Brad
    • October 15, 2015
    Reply

    This is my story at 40 yrs but I don’t figure out a treatment plan that works:( what worked for you Craig?

  2. Reply

    Bravo!
    Craig A. Kearns, I applaud you!

    That took courage.
    My family and friends also struggle with some of my behaviors, mostly forgetfulness and disorganization.
    But I do have a precious select few that understand.
    Sounds like you’re coping very well.
    Happy for you!
    Life is messy, enjoy it anyway!

    Kimberly McClintock

Leave a Comment

Laughter Is The Best Medicine for this ADDA Member

By Annette Tabor ADDA member Pam Wener has a passion for three things. She…

A Life Changing Event

By Jeannette McDonald I realized my life had changed the morning I woke up…

Filling In the Cracks

By R.A. I am a 55-year-old man. I’ve suffered from ADHD all my life,…

Could This Be Your Story?

By Samantha Schmidgall I couldn’t believe ADDA wanted to hear my story! Someone is…

Highway to Hell: Untreated Depression, Anxiety & ADHD Drove Me to Addiction

By James Tilley I always knew something was wrong but could not figure it…

ADHD Stimulants: Medication Diversion in the Real World

A Podcast from Jeff Copper's Attention Talk Radio There’s ADHD content and then there’s…