In his book, “Connect”, prominent psychiatrist and specialist in ADHD, Dr. Ed Hallowell, advises that connecting with others is an essential vitamin in building a healthy, successful life. It’s a scientific fact that we need one another. One of his tips for dealing with anxiety is “never worry alone”. The solution to a problem can be found by talking it out with someone who “gets it”.
I have come to believe that the thought that no one else understands what they are going through is never really true. On any given day many others are experiencing the same lonely thoughts and feelings. The challenge for ADHDers is to get in touch with people going through similar struggles for mutual help and support.
I attended my first ADDA Conference in Minneapolis in 2008. What a strange and marvelous sensation to enter a gathering where people simply “got” me and I “got” them. After years of working so very hard to understand and be understood because my brain processes information untypically, I found other ADDA members to help me find words to express my struggles as well as strategies for keeping my life organized.
Since then I’ve also attended the ADDA convention in Detroit in 2013 and the 25th anniversary convention in Orlando in 2014. While waiting for our shuttle to the airport at the end of the Orlando conference, a few of us gathered around a table and the conversation soon turned to how much it meant to each of us to find this much needed support through other ADDA members. We began to brainstorm how we might not only continue the marvelous connections made at this conference, but also share with other ADHDers the fact that you are not alone. There are so many of us out there, that “Get You”!
What transpired from this “brainstorm” is that through ADDA, we are able to offer this support and connection in the form of virtual support groups and workshops for ADHDers who have not had the opportunity to meet face to face.
I recently completed a wonderful program in which I led discussions in an eight week Virtual Peer Support Group. In January and February our small group met on Tuesday evenings and got to know each other through our stories. We dared to ask each other what we have always wanted to know from a fellow ADHDer. We encouraged each other through sharing our experiences of what we have found helpful and unhelpful with medication, coaching, therapy, and other resources. We shared according to the principle: never struggle or strategize over your ADHD alone!
Some of the meeting topics were;
Is It Your ADHD or You; Maximizing Strengths – Minimizing Weaknesses
Moving on From Good Intentions to Good Efforts
Relationships; Riding the Roller Coaster of Emotions
Let Improvement Be a Process; Consistency Isn’t a Given
Gratitude – Keep It Positive
Let me assure you that somebody who “gets you” and how ADHD effects your life is just a phone call away! JOIN US NOW!
Click this linkto sign up for the next session. This group will be limited to eight members. Once these positions are filled, you will be put on a waiting list for the next session. As soon as these eight slots are filled we will start meeting on Tuesday evenings at 7:00 pm CST. We will be in touch with the members to help set the agenda by sharing your hot ADHD topics.